Difficulty finding a significant other in 20' and 30's

anotheroboemom
Tue, 10 Jun 2025 14:53:48 +0000

I have found with myself (decades ago before I met and married DH) and with my 20-30 year old kids another important aspect of finding a significant other is within oneself. By this I mean that one has to learn who they are as a person and what they do and do not want in a partner. Specifically, for some people it takes time to figure out what is important and how they want to be treated.

I don’t give much advice to my adult kids (unless asked) but I do see that when they are in a happy place and know themselves well, they are more likely to find a healthy partner. Many times when they are happy and fulfilled alone within their own lives, they find a person who adds to their fulfillment. Rather than a significant other who is needed to feel fulfilled.