Discouraging Mother

weiqian
Fri, 07 Jun 2013 19:24:58 +0000

I know you posted this on the parent’s forum to get their feedback, so I’m sorry, but…

I hear you, rareparadox, my parents can be like that too! I know they want the best for me, as I’m sure your parents want for you. As you can probably tell from my username, I come from an Asian family too, which I consider a frustrating but wonderful privilege.

Although many CC parents and other parents out there are just as or even more dedicated, its not too common to find parents willing to sacrifice so much to make sure we have the brightest future and best education possible (although I’m not saying prep school is always the answer). Most of my friends’ parents, and even other Asian parents, would never imagine sending their kids off to boarding school with such high expenses.

This sounds really cheesy, but really, try talking to your mother, maybe compromise? I know it’s summer, but I would highly recommend, if you haven’t already, getting one or a few SSAT prep books- especially Kaplan. Go through a few practice tests, if you wanted to retake it.

Research the schools you might apply to, if you’re near the area, maybe visit a few. I visited what I thought were my two top choices in the summer and did my interview then (flew a few thousand miles, but it was worth it :)). One was still my top choice, the other one, well…

Anyways, I know your parents want you to apply for GLADCHEMS/HADES schools, which is great, but if you’re interested maybe look into a few others. I know I should’ve widened my choices when I was applying. Then after you’ve widened your options, I would narrow them down-- pick a few.

Maybe pick up some volunteer work in the area if it suits you, and keep doing awesome at Girl Scouts! It’s good to accomplish something during the summer, but have fun! It’s great that you’re not a stereotypical Asian kid–I know I mostly am. (Math camp starts in a few days!) :)

And, by the way, although I’m sure your mom was well-meaning, with all due respect, I disagree with her on part–you absolutely have a chance! You’re extremely talented, well rounded, and an excellent applicant! Sure, you’re not a sure bet, nobody is, but you have great potential!

Sorry, I know I kind of started rambling, and I know I’m not a parent, so take my opinion however you’d like, but I just wanted to let you know how great and lucky you are!