Discouraging Mother

Forrealmom
Sun, 30 Jun 2013 12:09:53 +0000

Hi @ rareparadox,
I am a mom with a S who feels 100% the same as how you feel—not from me but from his father. And as the “middle person”, I can empathize with both sides.

Usually when a parent nags, it’s becos they are frustrated—when they see you are not putting in enough effort or not self-motivated to do enough as to what they think you should—that’s always the reason that ticks them off to start nagging…

As for the kid, it’s “stop comparing me to other kids!”, “just let me do this on my own pace”, “I will, I will!!” etc, etc.

For us, our D/the sister started working hard last Aug and applied to BS and she got accepted into a HADES school & will be a prep this fall—imagine the “comparing” in our house!!..poor my S :-)

From my experience seeing what my D did applying to BS, you really need to want it & put in the best effort and work hard for it (she got 98% for SSAT on the 1st try last Dec). And the competition for the top tier schools is brutal, but many of the “hidden gem” schools are just as good.

Good luck to you!!