Divorce books/resources recommendations

intparent
Sat, 27 Jan 2018 04:01:07 +0000

My friend got a divorce after they had been married some decades. She got a portion of his pension and the pension administrator sends the checks straight to her without her having to keep asking.

I get this from my ex’s pension now (but it covers the family health insurance we lost when he retired, too – now that D2 has her own insurance through her grad program, I finally see some of this in my bank account besides just paying those costs).

Do not try to do this without a lawyer. There is a difference between an acrimonious scorched-earth divorce that just eats up all the assets, and a more cordial divorce where your interests are still represented.

in my state the inheritance would have been hers anyway. Inheritances are separate property, like gifts.

In the state we were in, it depended on whether you had comingled the money. I had not from an inheritance I got, and was able to pay my ex off for his half of the house equity so the kids and I could stay in the house until D2 was in college and I wanted to sell it.