Do You consider His/Her School when Dating?

Neonzeus
Sat, 26 Apr 2008 07:04:48 +0000

2 sons in college, who agree with CRS1909. Schools have certain reputations, and everyone knows what they are. (They do notice college tee-shirts when out & about.) Before they get to know a girl (or a girl gets to know a guy), people make fast judgments based on fast info.

Fast info is going to vary from person to person, but can include the person’s school… Tall, short, fat, thin, in-shape or not? Appealing smile? Glasses or contacts? Smoking or not? Clues whether someone is a match economically and in approach to school/future interests. They notice bleached hair/expensive nail jobs, clothes too tight-jeans too low-shorts too short etc. And then they make a fast call on whether to get to know Girl A or Girl B a little better, just like Girl A and Girl B are making a decision whether to show any interest in learning about Guy C or Guy D. It’s the dance of life.

It’s always possible to learn that fast judgments are off-base, but there are so many people out there that sometimes people don’t bother to go deeper.