Do you help support your graduate?

somemom
Fri, 05 Mar 2010 11:52:45 +0000

My in laws still usually pay for dinners out the few times a year we visit them, I think this is because they like to eat out and they have always paid.

My parents live near us and my DD commented regarding how much we feed them as we have a family dinner nearly every week and send them home with leftovers. I told my DD that they spend years feeding us all the time when we were young and it all works out :)

My in laws traveled prodigiously and they did take the us kids along in our 20s on a few treks-ski trips, boating, etc- and later the kids & grand kids a few times- mostly beach locations, so not really any cultural experience and, to be honest, back when we first first married, we skipped many of these invited trips as we did not want to be on vacation with DHs ex girlfriend (who is like a DD to the in laws :eek:)

I think if I could afford it easily (so not refinancing my house to pay for the kid) I would be pleased to take my kids and their families on vacation to enjoy the time together. I would not even think about it when they are still single.

The other thing we do is encourage sibling relationships and will pay for one sib to visit the other to encourage further closeness and time spent together.