Does he have to stick with this to the end?

doame
Fri, 24 Apr 2009 22:34:48 +0000

There are only 2 instances in which I think he might want to stay in band: 1) If he wants to pursue band into college, and/or thinks music is his future. 2) If all his friends are in it, he may miss the social connection.

If these are not relevant, then he could certainly quit. My D quit a noteworthy activity after junior year and not one interviewer asked her why. (She was accepted to all but one of her schools and got into her first choice.) She too was tired of the time-consuming commitment, and had other things going on. The only thing she missed was the social part…i.e. when they went out after a club event, etc. She kept the friends, but wasn’t included in the activity-only type things…