Does this sound like a bad idea?

ClassicRockerDad
Sun, 26 Jun 2016 23:43:14 +0000

you advised the OP to cut off her parents and get married at 18 for financial aid purposes.

I didn’t advise that, I pointed out the option.

This stuff is hard even with supportive family. With non-supportive family, sooner or later you need to wrest away control. Ideally it’s later, but one cannot control the timing of when special relationships come into your life. With the internet there is a way to maintain closeness, but sometimes getting together is necessary.

I pointed out that your life partner becomes your highest priority even over college and parents, if it is indeed your life partner. We have friends who are alone in their 50s who never separated from their controlling parents and said parents eventually died. My aunt never did. It doesn’t seem like a happy way to go through life.

Only the OP knows her heart. Based on the info she provided, I simply took the position that the relationship was a done deal.