Does this sound like a bad idea?

PrivateConundrum
Fri, 24 Jun 2016 23:14:19 +0000

@romanigypsyeyes : well I mean, look at his username, whaddya expect?

Still, I’m mostly with @ClassicRockerDad on this. Sometimes the best way to figure out what you’re gonna do is to see every option laid out before you. Teenagers aren’t often swayed by harsh criticism or passionate advice for the opposite thing they want. I don’t think the OP is doing anything particularly dumb. Brightest idea? No, but in the grand scheme of things it’s not life ruining.

I was in a secret long distance relationship with someone across the country. I broke up with him after 2.5 years. Fortunately, I didn’t do a lot of stupid things, but I considered them. I have an older friend/mentor who I could be honest about the relationship to and he very gently pointed out all the problems with the things I told him. In the end, that friend was a catalyst in the relationship ending. You know what he didn’t do? Tell me how to run my life or criticize my boyfriend. If he had, I probably would have stopped telling my friend stuff about the relationship. C’mon, folks, you are all either teenagers/young adults or have raised such. You know how this works.

Personally, I firmly believe that college support should not be contingent on personal relationships of the college kid, so long as grades are good and the kid isn’t engaging in illegal activity. Just my two cents.