Does this sound like a bad idea?

beth_s_mom
Sat, 25 Jun 2016 15:57:34 +0000

First, I don’t understand helping him with his rent. Is the only reason he’s getting an apartment (as opposed to living at home or living in a dorm) so you can stay with him on the weekends? If that is NOT the only reason, then not only would I not visit him, I would run in the other direction. If that is the only reason, then I think you are doing a disservice to your parents by using what is essentially THEIR money to subsidize a secret relationship of which they do not approve. That’s just wrong, and dishonest.

Second, while I see no problem with having a long distance relationship while in college, if you leave campus to visit your boyfriend every weekend then you’re not taking advantage of your college experience. This is your chance to meet new people, try new things and expand your horizons. If this relationship is meant to be, your boyfriend will still be there after you finish college. In the meantime, visit him once a month or so and utilize the many on-line tools that exist and will help the two of you continue your relationship from afar. If your boyfriend is a bigger priority than college, then forget about college (or going away to college) and concentrate on the boyfriend. (Personally, I think that would be a short sighted decision, but it’s your life).