Dorming with your best friend

shoot4moon
Thu, 16 Jan 2014 11:36:53 +0000

I can see why that would be envy producing, but frankly, if that’s his biggest issue at BU, he’s doing fantastic!

DD had the roommates from hell for a six week program. As in having to retrieve them from the bathroom because they were passed out on the floor in the middle of the night kind of roommates. She told me about her concerns, I listened and made possible suggestions, and she elected to not follow them. That’s perfectly fine - they were suggestions, and coming from someone with lots of life experience, but no current experience.

Fast forward a year - somehow this roommate and some related issues came up in conversation. It’s been two years now - I still think about it - and she has completely dismissed it from memory as unimportant. Reminds me of advice that I have taken to heart from someone on this board. When they call you with a problem, don’t hang up and think about how to solve it and get back to them with your brilliant solutions. Telling you was likely all they needed - they have moved on. Don’t bring it up again - they have collected new info and (unless THEY bring up again) have solved it to their satisfaction.
This takes discipline for me, but pays off.