Etiquette with boss

Youdon_tsay
Sun, 27 Nov 2011 14:03:33 +0000

In your situation, I think it was good to not say anything. I can see saying something if you were closer in age and had worked there a long time so had a prior long-term relationship. Because this was such a sensitive matter, I can see following his lead and not saying anything until he does.

Several years ago, a very high-profile employee in my dept was arrested. This was big news. A few days later, when the guy came back to work, at our daily morning meeting he opened by saying how sorry he was if his actions reflected poorly on the rest of us, etc. I was so glad he brought the topic up so there wasn’t a lot of awkwardness among the staff. Situation was aired, discussed minimally and not brought up again.

If you ever have to ask yourself whether you should say something, you probably shouldn’t. I felt close enough to this guy that I would have said something if he hadn’t.