Excessive Parent Involvement = Chronic Child Dependency (CDD)

doubleplay
Thu, 25 Jan 2007 10:23:03 +0000

Suna you hit the nail on the head. Interpreting overinvolvement and disfunctionality is going to differ not only among cultures but among individual family groups. When my kids were young, we tried to make them stoic when it came to injuries- minor scrapes, cuts… grit your teeth, slap some sav and a bandaid on it and shake it off. Others may see this as unfeeling. A member of my extended family has a son who still lives at home (unmarried) and he’s in his 50’s. For them it’s a perfectly happy, functional arrangement. I would not like my son to be living with me all his life, however that doesn’t necessarily make it wrong. There’s never going to be agreement on overinvolvement, or whether or not someone has been made dysfunctional as a result.