Failing to launch, or just sputtering

anitaw
Sat, 05 Aug 2006 23:33:24 +0000

Just to defend the dear friend, she felt the son was ill suited for the job before he started and since has been trying to encourage him to see the physical response for what it is- symptom of poor fit- at least at this point. He basically took the first reasonable job that a recruiter offered–no pressure from parents for immediate ‘returns’ for the high ticket school.

Since I spent my immediate post college years in med school/training and because my husband to be (engineer) went from great job to grad school to great job-- neither of us really was ‘seeing’ what happens to kids when the trajectory isn’t the same/as defined(especially me, I was barely awake most of the time when my nose wasn’t in a book or I wasn’t on call) I always wanted my kids to not have to ‘declare’ themselves early on, as I feel I was pushed to do-- but if there are ways to support the process, would like to provide advice and support (if asked.)…

I am fine with a bit of chaos, I have faith in entropy. But, I learned something by watching the son of my friend, so want to learn from the lessons of others as well!!