Family Dilemma, Advice needed (long post)

happymomof1
Tue, 21 Dec 2010 10:16:55 +0000

This really is between you and your nephew. Not between you and your brother.

Sometime after the next semester begins, pick up the phone and call your nephew (not your brother). Ask your nephew how he is doing. Tell him that as his aunt you are so excited to know that he is graduating. Talk with him about his plans for his future. Let him know that you care, because, well aunts do care.

Then, depending on how the conversation goes, you could mention that his dad had asked you for specific contact information for one of your husband’s family connections. He might not want the contact information at all! If he does, well then you need to remember that your husband is this kid’s uncle. And good uncles do care about their niece’s and nephew’s lives. Considering that this is a pretty thin connection (uncle’s nephew’s grade school pal) the likelihood of all the steps working isn’t easily predicted, and even if he’s interested in the contact information, that doesn’t mean the kid will get an interview, let alone a job.