Family Dilemma, Advice needed (long post)

coconuts
Tue, 21 Dec 2010 10:01:17 +0000

My 2 brothers who are VERY well off and well known in their industry recently joined forces to make money for themselves instead of others. Both were in a position to be helpful with contacts for internships or even real jobs for DD who graduated in June. Brother 1 would call/email me and say have DD contact me (she had many times and he had her email and phone #), which she would do and it would go nowhere as he wouldn’t call back or they’d get disconnected or whatever. Brother 2 when asked for help (review resume, suggest contacts) told her to check out Monster. She finally got a job with benefits(yay!) not paying a lot or doing what she really wanted, but no complaints!

DH lost his job several months ago. Recently the brothers’ new enterprise had contracted a business to do some work. A small part of that was in DH’s area. DH bid the job and didn’t get it. He asked brother how close was he to being the low bidder. Turns out he WAS. Brother said he couldn’t influence who the business chose to do the work. As if.

Last week brother 2 was in town and the family got together for dinner. We had returned from DH’s nephew wedding the week before. In conversation I mentioned that his best man was a grade school buddy/college roommate ended up being a gazillionaire when the company he started at as an intern (couldn’t afford to pay him so gave him stock options) went public.

Here’s the dilemma. I got an email from Brother 2. His son is graduating from a top college (big time legacy). He now wants a job at the company. Can’t imagine what he would do as his major was in his father’s area, not this company’s, but whatever. Brother wants nephew’s contact info to pass along to son. I don’t want to do it. He’s done nothing to help us any way. We’re struggling and he wants ME to help his son who could waltz into any number of wellpaying jobs??? One part of me wants to ignore him and the other wants to tell him what I really think.

Any advice for me?