Family Dilemma, Advice needed (long post)

Youdon_tsay
Tue, 21 Dec 2010 13:01:50 +0000

The reason I don’t agree with jym is because I’d want to be the better person and not punish my niece/nephew just because his/her parent is a jerk. That said, it’s the parent who asked for help, not the nephew, which is why I’d talk to the brother about the situation and hurt feelings.

jym, I also have a jerky sibling. My sister is 7 years older than me and has been jealous of me her whole life. I think it must be difficult for her to be so bitter. I don’t expect a lot from her. She now is jealous of my children, and, for instance, this year didn’t get my 15yo anything for Christmas, even though I, of course, got her kids presents until they turned 18 (that’s when we age-out in our family. ). Yes, it is easier to have no expectations where she is concerned – and I don’t – but I do think she’s a b*tch for treating my children poorly because, at 55 yo, she still harbors some bizarre grudge. I’ve always been more than kind to her kids and have a clear conscience in that regard.