Fed up with attitude

anon94785555
Fri, 20 Nov 2015 05:55:34 +0000

You’re lucky your kid lasted that long without turning into a terrible teen. Just like toddlers, teens are pushing for independence and a sense of self. Being self centered is the norm. Not wanting to interact with parents also. It may get worse, not better, as the school year and summer progress. They push at you every which way they can it seems.

Do not insist on the same behaviors you expect from a dutiful child. The child is becoming an adult and treating older teens as you would other adults may help them treat you better. Your HS senior is testing limits. The stress of college apps adds to the mix. Perhaps ignoring the teen as you would an unpleasant coworker would help. The senior is starting to separate from you by now. S/he should be becoming mostly self sufficient by now.

Anyone else quit going on family trips at this stage? We have one son and it wasn’t worth the attitude expressed (he wasn’t the only teen I saw left in the car at a site we visited on our final trip with him). H and son did the college trip- perhaps if I had gone they would have visited a couple of convenient schools instead of passing them by (way too late now- he has his degree).

Nothing wrong with your kid. Is there anything wrong with your expectations or how YOU treat your emerging adult???