Financial Aid...UGH

laxtaxi
Wed, 16 Apr 2008 12:30:57 +0000

Nice turnaround. Nothing wrong with telling your parents how much you appreciate them.

Another piece of advice. My situation with D is not dissimilar to your parents’. I too thought no way if no FA. Then when I saw what BS could do for her I decided to find a way to pay it even though we were offered no FA.

A couple times I slipped and made a comment to my D about the expense. She was REALLY hurt by it and I realized that it was not appropriate to tell her she can go and then make her feel guilty because of the expense and sacrifice we are making for her. I was grateful that I have a D who is willing to express such things openly and tell me I hurt her with such comments. So I keep my financial thoughts to myself.

Hopefully your parents are more mature than I and already know better than to make such hurtful comments. In case they display human frailties and slip once in a while, my advice is that you let them know that such comments are hurtful and take away from your joy in the gift they are giving you. With my D, we have an agreement now - my job is to make the opportunity available to her, and her job is to enjoy it and make the most of it. If we each do our job then we have lots to celebrate with one another.

I hope this helps.