Frat Disaster, What to Do?

austinmshauri
Sat, 06 Feb 2021 21:03:35 +0000

Massmomm:

He needs to go to the school, perhaps the first year dean, and lay out what has happened. Yes, it will be painful for him, but the girl needs to be called to account for her actions. If she is truly a victim, this is not the way to handle it. If she is not, then she needs to be disciplined for what she has done.

There is something very wrong with making an accusation publicly and destroying a person’s reputation and well-being without taking it before a neutral third party for investigation.

The school is not neutral. As soon as he approaches any school representative they’re going to take a statement from him. It won’t feel like one. More than likely it will be a friendly conversation. He’ll be prompted for details and asked if he was drinking. She’ll be brought in separately. If she even implies that he physically assaulted her or raped her they will help her file Title IX charges against him. Then everything he told the friendly Dean he chatted with will be used against him.

Schools do not care about guilt or innocence. They care about how many Title IX cases they’ve had, and if they’ve been investigated by the feds for making too many wrong decisions (in other words, finding more boys innocent than the feds approve of) then they care a whole lot about the outcome of this case. If they get it wrong they lose their federal funding. They care about that a great deal.

What he needs to do is follow @MYOS1634’s excellent advice.