Frat Disaster, What to Do?

dadof4kids
Sat, 06 Feb 2021 20:39:05 +0000

I think we are on the same page. I agree that conviction sounds unlikely (given the 3% of the whole story we know, but it feels that way). And that is sadly the case even when an assault did take place. Because usually only 2 people know what really happened. One is lying, but if we are being honest it is almost never beyond a reasonable doubt which one.

But a formal accusation, even if unfounded, carries severe reprecussions irregardless of any innocence or guilt. Innocence or guilt is really a secondary issue frankly.

The girls are the ones behaving badly. But my worry would be trying to call them out on it could lead to them playing their big trump card. And she could say it was something that happened a week or month before the public fight. Prove it didn’t. Yes, it has baggage for her, but he will feel the brunt of the fallout. And from the U’s POV, they won’t care a lick about innocence or guilt. They will want him gone. There is no upside to him staying, and tremendous reputational downside. That is what happened locally. I think the majority of the people involved believed the guy, but his coach and later the U were not willing to get drug through the mud being seen as coddling a rapist. No one did more than pay lip service to finding out what actually happened as they told him to pack his bags.

I just fear this may be a case of the downside of calling them out outweighing the upside. And that is assuming that mom is telling us everything, and he told her everything. The world will punish him for being accused. I’m sorry. This isn’t fair. But I think it is the reality.