Freshman quitting college - need guidance

grandscheme
Sat, 03 Feb 2018 04:40:23 +0000

@Hittheroad Our oldest is in her 7th year of undergrad. We are sooooo over her being there. Failed a course once. Neglected to complete two incompletes other times. Neglected to get credits transferred when we made her regroup at the local community college.Always some rationale for needing to take more classes. supposedly this is her last semester…of undergrad. We will see.

Our second born has was struggling with engineering courses and ultimately failed several, he did a retroactive withdraw, took a semester off, did a semester at a local college and has finally decided college is not for him, after 3 years under the belt.

Demanding money from either of them in repayment would be squeezing water from a stone. Not gonna happen. We have drawn clear lines in the sand…and they muddy them. Learning and anxiety issues are sprinkled in. NO judgmental comments from the CC community, please. Too much of a story to go in to. (and FWIW, to those who question our parenting, our third born is very successfully going through his college career on the deans list at a top university and is working two jobs by choice in addition. Our youngest is a senior in HS and has been admitted to honors programs in several top schools already and is a candidate for significant merit scholarships.) .

The point is, the OP is not alone in facing that the plan we as parents had, that our kids would graduate HS, then graduate college in the next 4 years and then launch…don’t always happen that way. If your child can actually know themselves enough to know they are not ready and may never be, work with them to map out alternate plans and expectations. If it is a possibility your child will want to go to college one day, just take a leave. Don’t withdraw. Keep the option open. But prepare to accept that your plan for them may not be what they decide should be their path. Painful and difficult for us as parents, but its part of our growing up, too. Good luck to any finding themselves in a similar situation.