Friend left out when choosing dorms for next year

5amy39
Tue, 13 Dec 2016 23:00:06 +0000

Having trouble figuring out my housing situation with friends for next year.

1. There are four of us

2. Two of us already live together (in a triple with someone else who has plans to room with other friends next year)

3. The third friend practically lives with us, and along with me and the friend who is the roommate, we spend most of our time together in the dorm, studying, hanging out, eating, between classes, etc (she also does not get along with her own roommates)

4. Our fourth friend prefers to study alone and is really busy so we don’t spend as much time together, but she is still in our core friend group

5. Friend number four and I had actually considered rooming together before meeting in person (through facebook), but mutually agreed that this wouldn’t be a good idea because I have a diagnosed anxiety disorder and she has a lot of anxiety in general and gets really stressed over everything

6. The three of us who spend a lot of time together want to share a room next year (we already know our living habits are cohesive), but this will mean leaving out our other friend, and if I were in that situation, I know I’d feel terrible; I’ve discussed this with our fourth friend, and she agrees. She does not want to be left out, and has changed her view that we should not live together, but I have not because I am too worried about the potential affect on my and her moods.

7. None of us, including the fourth friend, want to split into two dorms and have a stranger as the third in each, because two of us have already experienced that this year and it’s an awkward situation. We also cannot afford doubles or suites.

This is a bad situation regardless, and I have no idea what to do or how to find a solution where someone isn’t left feeling extremely hurt. Help??