Friend left out when choosing dorms for next year

Lindagaf
Tue, 13 Dec 2016 23:19:53 +0000

Living with friends isn’t all it’s cracked up to be. It is often best to live with someone you get along with, who isn’t necessarily your best buddy. But it seems like you are set on it, so on to your dilemma.

Four of you can’t afford a suite? I have to say, I think you are going to leave the fourth friend in the lurch and the likely result might be that your friendship will suffer. Then there are three of you, and three’s a crowd, right? It seems that the person guiding and making decisions is you. You are worried about the other friend stressing you out. That is selfish. It’s up to you to manage and control your stressors. Maybe I don’t understand anxiety, but I didn’t realize that anxiety is triggered by other people who might also be anxious. If the other friend spends a lot of time studying and you don’t see her as much anyway because she is busy, then maybe that is a good reason to have her in your group. It seems to me that she might be the one who keeps things balanced.

Does everyone know that you are anxious? Is your anxiety being treated? Imagine you are the fourth person and this situation was being discussed about you. What would you want? Food for thought.