Frustrated at daughter for lying about college classes

rosyoften
Fri, 10 Jul 2020 04:19:57 +0000

Wasn’t able to respond earlier because today was super busy. But I did get a chance to read all these responses. Thanks for the suggestion about making her have consequences and her paying me back. Folks, we are paying a TON of money for her college tuition— close to $70K a year! If your kid pulled off all the crap I described in the original post at an expensive Ivy League school (yes, Ivy on a quarter system… guess which school), I’m guessing you’d be pretty mad too! It’s unacceptable that DD is wasting our money in this manner. Per the suggestion in @Groundwork2022 we are making DD pay us back for her CS and Stats classes. That’s $10K, and we are halfway there with the money in her joint bank account. After the money from her (equally easy and laughable) virtual internship this summer, along with money from future work study when (or if) she’s back on campus, she should be able to easily fully repay us.

@vpa2019 is one of the few on this thread who gets the value of expensive tuition. Apparently the rest of you are comfortable wasting college tuition willy nilly. We are not. As a result, DD recently agreed to give us the ID and password to her school login (and subsequently, her school Canvas as well). We will be able to easily track her progress this way— there will be no more BSing important classes from here on out! This will be doubly important for DD as hubby and I are making her complete a CS minor, both as a punishment for blowing off important classes in the spring and because her intended political science major alone isn’t enough for sustainable long-term employment.

A few of you on here have expressed that my daughter shouldn’t fear me. This is just ridiculous in my eyes; OF COURSE kids should fear their parents! Are you all really so soft as to think you should be equals to your kids? This sort of lax behavior from parents is why America is facing downward mobility and laziness.

Some of you have also expressed that my reaction is going to “ruin” my relationship with my daughter. This is equally ridiculous; are all of you so subservient to your kids as to think that actually holding academic standards or getting your money’s worth of college tuition is going to permanently damage your relationship with your kids? That’s pathetic. No wonder kids these days are such fragile snowflakes.

To the few of you on here who have reaffirmed me and given me ideas: thank you. You are the real CC gems.