Getting written feedback on boarders' work

ChoatieMom
Sat, 02 Nov 2013 13:20:16 +0000

If you expect me – or any parent reading this thread – to post the facts that prompted the question, I am sorry to disappoint.

I’m sorry you feel you’ve been attacked BigValley, but because I could see that coming a mile away from the way you opened this thread, I asked you in post #2:

Can you share your specific reason for this inquiry? We may be able to help you out if we understand the reason for the question.

Without that information, most people here would automatically assume you were trying to helicopter remotely and would immediately tell you why that’s a bad idea for all involved. At this point, we know you aren’t trying to helicopter, but you’ve stated that you believe:

… looking at the back and forth between the teacher and the kid is by far the best way to tell if the kid is getting effective instruction at school.



And most of us have tried to tell you truthfully that you will not have such a ringside seat if your child attends BS. That type of access won’t occur unless you force it and nothing good will come of that. You CAN be assured, however, that you will get very detailed updates from your child (because you have a good relationship there) and your child’s advisor, and the term reports (both mid- and end-of-term) will be very detailed. You will not be left wondering how your child is doing nor will you be unsure of the effectiveness of instruction. We’re just trying to tell you that the concerns you have are legitimate but will be addressed through your relationship with your child and your child’s advisor and the reports you received from your child’s teachers at specified times.

Also, FWIW, everyone (well, that may be a bit of an exaggeration) at Choate knows who “ChoatieMom” and ChoatieKid are. The sky hasn’t fallen, and I’ve found it to be beneficial at times. It’s perfectly alright to want to preserve your anonymity, as almost everyone here does, but I don’t see how the question you’ve posed has an identity component.

In any case, sorry for the rough start. Welcome to the forum. It can be a rough ride at times, but you can be sure that most of our hearts are in the right place. Most of us stay here because we are interested and we really want to help.