Girlfriend troubles and jealousy issues

Polo08816
Mon, 25 May 2009 19:10:27 +0000

I’m having some troubles with my girlfriend, and I need some help. Well, I shouldn’t say troubles, per se, but here’s what happened. Me and my girlfriend know the password to each others Facebook. I don’t really have anything to hide, and up until last night I didn’t think she had anything to hide either. I happened to just be online and I just went into her profile, and I saw she had a PM and a friend request from a guy. I looked at the PM and it was this guy telling her that they were in the same class and he always thought she was pretty and wanted to talk to her but never did. He said he hated that he missed the opportunity to talk to her because he sees that she has a boyfriend now. He also said she probably wouldn’t have liked him anyway, but he’s trying to add her to his Facebook.

Why is he trying to add her if he knows she has a boyfriend? I was upfront with her and told her what I’d seen, and she was just like, she remembers him from class, and she was flattered, but nothing was going to happen. I asked her why did she need to add him if nothing is going to happen. She just said she was trying to be nice, but I think this guy might get the wrong idea and might still want to try something.

Am I just being really jealous or justifiably suspicious?

I may not call as much attention to my “game” as others, but I’d have to say you’re not being either jealous or suspicious, you’re just going about it like a friggin NOOB.
If you act like you’re jealous, what you think is going to happen eventually will happen.
I understand that many guys have this habit when this is one of their first few relationships, but I find that you’re better able to hold onto a chick when you act like this doesn’t even “phaze” you.
One of the most important things in dating is to be reasonable and stick to your guns. You need to be consistent and reasonable in the way that you deal with things. Don’t tell her that you will dump her if you find out this is what is going on, just make it clear through your actions that you will not hesistate to end something if you no longer trust her.