girls cutting

berurah
Sun, 17 Apr 2005 02:29:03 +0000

I asked my parents if I could see a therapist, but because of my dysfunctional family mechanics I never ended up doing it.



Oh, honey, I am soooooo sorry. I can totally understand your predicament though. I, too, was raised in a very dysfunctional family (though not overtly dysfunctional, just the ultra damaging emotional stuff), and my own mother was DEATHLY afraid of mental health professionals. After all, any good therapist would examine the whole family structure, and that was the last thing she wanted.

If necessary, you can approach a school counselor about this. S/he can “suggest” counseling for a student, but if the parents are not compliant, a decision would have to be made as to how far to push it because any further action would require the intervention of social services. At least that is how it is here.

I really applaud your efforts and if nothing else, I hope that you are able to hold onto the thought that your family IS dyfunctional and that your problems are a result of THAT. If you cannot seek outside help now, I would strongly suggest that you do that as one of your first priorites when you leave your parents’ home.

Please keep us posted as to how you are doing…~berurah