Girls...WTH?

BedHead
Fri, 16 Mar 2007 12:30:38 +0000

I just know this) end up ending the relationship within the first 6 months. Christmas break is usually a great time. And a lot of times, it’s 'cause they met someone else. Maybe you should be that someone else.

So, she seems to be showing a lot of interest in you. It’s hard without being there to know if unconsciously or consciously she is playing the field and if she’s also expressing this interest to other guys. But I would not delay in expressing interest.

Go with the advice that I gave to the OP (my posts begin on page 5). The first thing you need to do is get some other dates going. But this is for you to do; don’t tell her.

And as you do that, work some game with her. Spend time with her, but don’t dote on her. Don’t move your schedule around a lot to be with her. Have your own life going. Find out what she likes without being obvious and do those things with her or take her to hear music she likes or something. But take it up some notches.

And when the mood is right – which you will have to work to set – make your move. DO NOT wait for her to say “I broke up with my boyfriend, so now I am available.” If you do wait for that, the follow up won’t be “so now I am available,” but “and started going out with someone else who I like a lot.”

Use the blacksmith rule: strike while the iron is hot.

If it bothers you that she has a boyfriend, keep things at kissing and talk to her about it. If she says, “I can’t do this, I have a boyfriend,” you can tell her simply “I know you have a boyfriend, but I had to do this.”

If she continues asking, what do you mean, you say “you’re a beautiful woman. It’s really simple. I had to kiss you.” Don’t talk about it too much, if she keeps talking about it. Just say, “look. I get it. Okay, let’s move on.”
Don’t say: I like you a lot (let your kiss show that.) Be declaritive and strong. Don’t say “you’re a beautiful woman to me” say “you’re a beautiful woman.” Period. And don’t say “I know you don’t like me” or something like that. Just say, “It’s okay. Let’s move on.” If she’s hesitating, in other words, pull back. When you pull back in a situation like this, it is more likely she’ll move forward.

I don’t know what level of experience you are. If you don’t know how to kiss really well or something, this is going to sound crazy but you should consider it: find someone who doesn’t know anyone you know and who will never know someone you know (that is, someone from another town or the classifieds or something) and ask them or pay them $20 or whatever to teach you how to kiss. Some guys kiss well naturally, but other guys are much better for having been taught. Don’t make her be the one to teach you.