Giving Unsolicited Advice

ariesathena
Wed, 03 Apr 2013 21:19:12 +0000

Sometimes when someone is feeling very sensitive about what they like/the choice they’ve made, it won’t matter how tactfully you express your thoughts.

If someone’s already made a choice, telling them that it was a bad choice is irrelevant or counter-productive. “Please do not drink until you’ve blacked out; I don’t want some guy to take advantage of you” is not the same thing as, “Someone swiped your wallet when you were passed out drunk on the floor of a frat house? Um, gee, let’s figure out how you might have avoided it!”

You can tell people how to extricate themselves from the situation with the least amount of damage, but re-litigating the past doesn’t change it. JMHO.