Giving up on dating

Data10
Mon, 07 Jan 2019 06:14:17 +0000

One really unfortunate thing about dating is being “ghosted”. Right now it just doesn’t seem worth it to use my time, effort, and money to continue looking.

After a week or so the calls stop and text messages don’t get answered. Talking with other people, it seems like being “ghosted” happens a lot.

I’ve been on both sides of the “ghosting.” If you met through a dating site, have not been dating long, and have not yet started an exclusive relationship; it is quite common. Interests can change over the course of the week, both due to learning more about each other and due to external circumstances beyond your control. There are countless possible reasons. Maybe she has been on dates with other people and wants to focus on other prospects. Maybe she was turned off by something, such as a long series of texts asking why she isn’t replying.

Whether it is worth the time and effort or not, depends on your priorities. Dating can be inexpensive, if you choose inexpensive activities. You don’t have to go to an expensive restaurant or bar, and offer to pay the bill. For example, I like to have first dates going on walks in a public and scenic area with my dog. It costs nothing but gas, is easy to talk/hear, is something I would have done on my own, is a good test for how well she’ll get along with my dog, and tends to have a high success rate compared to other activities. Once you attend grad school, I’d expect it will be far easier to meet people than with dating sites due to frequently spending time with a large number of single women, near your age.