Grad gift for my son's long-time girlfriend

jonri
Sat, 28 Mar 2015 18:19:28 +0000

I’m going to wade in here…If you spend that much on her gift are her parents likely to do the same for your S? I’m just asking. I personally would not have felt comfortable getting that extravagant a gift from a boyfriend’s parents and part of the reason I would not have is that there is no universe in which my parents would have spent that much $ on a boyfriend’s gift, even adjusting the price for inflation.

I know two cases in which young men decided weeks before college graduation that they wanted to break up with their girlfriends. In both cases, their parents were stunned. In both cases, siblings of the young men got very, very upset about the break ups because they had really bonded with the young women they expected to be their future sisters-in-law.

So, personally, while I get that you really like her and THINK she is going to be part of your lives for years to come, I would be very hesitant to spend that sort of $ on a gift for her unless (a) you are very wealthy and would give that sort of gift to a young relative finishing college OR (b) you know her parents have or will give your S an equally pricey gift.

Just my two cents.