Greek life worries

Maroons
Mon, 06 Feb 2012 21:17:43 +0000

I still have nightmares of my rush at VU–and it was only, let’s see, 26 years ago. I fell through (no bids) my first year and pledged my sophomore year. (Read on, though!)

Everyone was pretty nice during rush, but, bottom line, if you’re not particularly plugged in before you arrive on campus, it can be tough territory to navigate. I was overly sensitive anyway and so I took it very hard. Unlike the college app process, rush can’t be written off as a numbers or demographics game when it doesn’t go your way. I admired the girls who were dropped by their sororities of choice and moved on happily. I never quite recovered my confidence but stayed at VU, had good friends, and graduated.

Life does go on, I’m glad to say. I didn’t meet my (VU grad) husband until my late twenties, and our greek experiences could not have been more different. He loved every minute of those days–sailed through rush, etc. etc. His fraternity brothers are some of the finest people I know. So don’t lose perspective, whatever you decide.