Gulp Feeling Sad about DS leaving (in 2017!)

gungablue
Mon, 07 Dec 2015 17:18:31 +0000

I dreaded my son leaving and it has been just as hard as I thought it would be. I miss him every day and it hasn’t gotten any easier at all. It was so painful again when he left after Thanksgiving.

I consider BS to be a huge sacrifice for our family – for his siblings and for his parents and for our family life. There is a piece missing when he is gone. He’s at BS because he wants to be there, because there are no other good options for him locally, and because his own life goals will be better developed by BS. I try to remember that he is happy and thriving and allow that to help me. I also remember that I don’t get to keep my children generally – their job is to find their own way and make a life for themselves that makes them happy and contributes to the world. He’s doing that for himself. While I feel “cheated” out of four years with him, he is just developing his own life and pursuing his own goals and dreams.