Gulp Feeling Sad about DS leaving (in 2017!)

chemmchimney
Mon, 07 Dec 2015 22:09:03 +0000

As both a BS grad and a BS parent, I agree with Choatiemom and others -it doesn’t really get easier, and I am finding my daughter’s senior year even more lonely than her sophomore year (her first at BS) because the reality is sinking in - she is not ever coming home. Ever. She is unbelievably happy at her school which turned out to be a perfect fit, but it didn’t start out that rosy; my stoic daughter was crying to come home over Thanksgiving break and it was all I could do to tell her she needed to stick it out for the rest of the year. I ended up paying the deposit in Feb and just crossing our fingers that it was the right thing to do. Within a few weeks, she was happier than I had ever seen her and that has remained the case. Now I wonder if she will be able to find a college where she is as happy as she is at her BS. They have a tough act to follow. She has had amazing support from the adults in her life at school. We are not missed much! And she has developed into an entirely different - and wonderful - young adult than I believe she would or could have become at home.

She has a performance this weekend as well as exams and a game, and we have been debating whether or not to go see her show. It is a nearly 4 hour drive one way and she will not have time for dinner or anything. Now, as a result of this thread, I think we will make the trip. It has been very hard having college decisions, proms, games (ex: She had first game of the season on Saturday, so I texted her “Did you have a game today?” and got back “Yeah.” and then I knew they had lost. ( : All those little things you look forward to sharing with your high schooler happen without us. I want to be there and bring her some ramen and chocolate and flowers to get her through the next week when several more of her college decisions come through - during exams of course. I will be home by then, checking the BS thread to get some virtual hugs.