Gulp Feeling Sad about DS leaving (in 2017!)

Charger78
Sun, 06 Dec 2015 03:16:41 +0000

We all live “gone” individually. ChoatieMom is right about an absence the perforates the heart. How much it hurts will vary widely. Over the last several years, she and others have become a “real” presence in my life, even as the children achieve their independent distance. I feel a bit broken up for CMom right now.

I suspect that had our son remained at home, we would have lost quite a bit of the young man that we currently have. He is more affectionate right now than I can possibly imagine if all the familiarity and disciplining of his being here had occurred instead. Truth be told, I wanted all those other “parents” at the BS giving him different models by which to compare us, and to touch him with their own best traits. He’s a much better person for it.

The prospect that in ten days time, a favorable admission will put our boy on the path to being about 300 further miles away in the fall – that’s disturbing. How could the college community ever be the second family for us parents that BS has become? Especially, we will see him much less often. As others have said, that loss is much harder on us than on the kid, whose problems are of a different sort, or so I believe.

If we had it to do over again, however, I could not see any other preferable course. ~O)