healing your personality

Classof2015
Wed, 17 Nov 2010 07:35:03 +0000

It sounds like right now, you have to live with/abide by this person, so you need someway to cope without losing or hurting yourself. I wonder if their abuse has ramped up because your departure is on the horizon? I say “abuse” because verbal abuse (taunts, criticisms, gaslighting) is just as damaging as physical abuse. Check out books/articles on verbal abuse. It’s very subtle, but also a deliberate way to chip away at your self-worth. It’s like living under a cloud of acid rain that leaves your mantle of self esteem pitted and susceptible to more wounds.

The therapy could be with a social worker – talk therapy, where you say how you feel, you describe the guardian’s behavior, and you get feedback on what is appropriate and how you can cope and survive while you are in this toxic relationship. Sam Vaknin is a genuis when it comes to knowing and describing narcissists. You are there to feed the narcissist’s needs – nothing else. When they sense that their target is abandoning them, they become even more vicious (and often vindictive).

Hang in there.