Heart Broken Mom

sopranomom92
Tue, 12 May 2009 13:21:56 +0000

Perhaps this should be another thread, but it is an interesting point. What rights do parents have as far as demands on their children if parents pay for college?

Require that:
Student tries her best, studies, and passes classes. Is it appropriate to require a certain GPA?

Student follows family moral code, whatever that is. Example: parent refuses to pay if D moves in with boyfriend? Let the “pretend husband” pay? Difficult questions. If the parent is offended by a lip ring, nose ring, tatoo, whatever, is he/she justified in refusing to continue to pay for college?

It is true that when we pay for our “adult” children’s activities, college or otherwise, we do have some say in their behavior. If they want independence, they are free to take it, along with the responsibilities.

Is it okay to pay for the engineering major, but if you change your major to theater, you’re on your own? I’m not willing to go that far, but I do sympathize with a parent who won’t subsidize the honeymoon cottage with the boyfriend.