Help a frazzled parent

mom60
Thu, 07 Jan 2010 13:15:15 +0000

My son at 20 still loses things. Multiple sets of car keys that can only be purchased from the dealer and programed at the dealer with the car. Last year we went through a crisis where he had gotten down to just 1 set of car keys. Somehow between driving into our driveway and the house he lost the keys. He went so far as to say it was the puppies fault. He was convinced the puppy had ate the keys. We knew the keys had to be somewhere. It have the car towed to the dealer and keys made was going to be beyond my son’s bank account. He had to walk and skateboard. Finally my H found the keys in between the seats of the car. At that point we made my son pay for getting a 2nd set made. At one point he lost 1 set at a concert that he had taken a cab. Another sleeping over at a friend (again without the car). Another time we think he took them back to college(again without even having the car).
When he lose or breaks a phone we don’t rush to buy him another. He has used some pretty old phones we have saved.
He has misplaced his debit card on way to many occasions. Soph year we brought up a replacement card (to replace the one he had no idea where it had gone). While visiting my H drove him to the bank to activate the card. We go home and a week later we get a phone call from someone at the bank in his college town. His account is at a home branch so we are not sure what is up. Son can’t seem to make time to call. Finally my H calls and reaches a nice woman who says someone turned in a ATM card that was left in the machine on blank date. The day he activated the card. He forgot to remove the card when he activated it. He didn’t even know he had lost the card. This is the reason this child does not have a credit card!
His room also looks like a cyclone went through.