Help a mom understand HADES!!!!

ExieMITAlum
Fri, 16 Mar 2012 15:51:34 +0000

Many of the same people who object to the term HADES often preach the gospel of FIT.

I’m one of those who advocated for fit after some suicide attempts by kids who were at schools their parents wanted for them but they didn’t want for themselves. One could say “suck it up” but there’s a reason why every school has a different personality. Even Andover and Exeter tend to like different types of students (although they sometimes both choose the same students). They look the same on the outside, but are quite different on campus.

So many kids PM to say their parents want this school or that school because it will help them get into an IVY, or it has more “prestige” and I say students should stop picking based on prestige or perceived value and go where they can thrive. Even under the best circumstances high school (public or private) and all the hormones that go with it can be hell. So why not spend 4 years in a place that fits.

True - most kids on this board are smart enough, and work hard enough to do the work at ANY of the schools (HADES or non-HADES). But at the the time the idea of fit came up, it was because students and parents were being chastised for NOT choosing HADES when they had the option.

We get too hung up on semantics. Go to the school where you will be the most challenged, where you will have to push yourself, but where you can also grow emotionally, academically and physically. If that’s HADES, we’re all here to cheer them on! If not - that support is here too.