Help! College issues with Ivy league son

svlab112
Fri, 13 Jul 2018 00:52:28 +0000

I agree that a 2.5 alone should not trigger a withdrawal. Same with being “sad” about it. It can be a disappointment to not meet expectations whether internal or external. #reallife

However, not criticizing OP. Safety first and trusting instincts.

I’m a former HS grade micromanager. I decided to approach college differently. I don’t ask and don’t check.

They do share some accomplishments and struggles. I encourage them to try a different approach if its not getting the results they want.

D (UCB EECS) told me she had several Cs first year and even a C- in a math class she could have skipped.

I thought she’d never graduate.

I considered telling her to drop.

She felt like a failure (former uw 4.0).

However, if asked, she said enjoyed the material. She felt she was mastering the material and choking on the tests.

I didn’t believe her.

Nonetheless, she carried on and graduated with—from what I gather—below 3.0 and zero internships.

I then thought she never find a job.

In the end, she had job lined up a month before graduation paying 130,000+. She found the job on her own.

She’s been there 5 weeks and is thrilled. She says she getting praise for her work.

I know this is anecdotal. However, I’m so glad I didn’t try to persuade her with sensible advice.