Help! Oldest daughter going off to college. We need support

4mygirls
Tue, 26 Aug 2008 01:16:25 +0000

I’ve been reading this thread for the past week and have been dreading the day when we had to send off our D1. Well the day came yesterday and it was every bit as horrible as I thought it would be. I held it together until she got on the plane and then I let it all out. The physical pain of separation was, and is still awful. 24 hours later and after hearing her voice three time zones away, I am doing a little better. D1 connects with me on a different level than my sophomore daughter. We “get” each other without having to explain ourselves. I do think I can find joy eventually but I don’t think I will ever be fully healed. She leaves on a pre-orientation backpacking trip tomorrow and I will have no contact with her until we see her on move-in day (Friday). I’m hoping her excitement and happiness will ease the pain. BusyMomof4, that would be my worst nightmare too. When your baby is far away, the least you can hope for is her happiness. Goodluck and I’m going to pack the stuffed animals that D1 insisted she didn’t need. She’s had it since she was 2 and I’m sure there will be nights when she will be thankful she has it.