help with a tough choice!

HowardRoark
Sat, 10 Feb 2007 00:46:37 +0000

Well, to give you a short background on myself, I go to ASU on a national merit scholarship, and am in my 2nd year. Right now I am a Classics major, but am doing the premed requirements, and plan on applying to med schools at the end of undergrad. In my 2nd year, I have over 100 credits, although I can’t technically graduate in a semester or so because I need to get the pre med reqs done. Anyway, here is my dilemma. I was supposed to go play soccer in college, but a broken leg kinda ended that my senior year. Now, I have never been crazy about ASU, my life is fine and all, but I don’t have the circle of interesting friends I had hoped for, classes are pretty boring, and I just don’t feel a sense of community here, like I’m involved with the school. So I have always been in love with Oberlin College as a school, and I have talked with the soccer coach on a number of occasions and he still says that he would love to have me come. And I would really love playing soccer again. Most importantly, I think the switch would just offer me more of the “college experience”. I’m not as happy as I could be here. Now, the argument for staying at ASU goes something like this: I only have two more years left, I am getting a 4.0, and plan on keeping it, and if the goal is to get into med school, would the transfer really benefit me in the long term? Besides, I would have to pay for Oberlin (I think, if the money issue were taken out of it, I would transfer). Okay, so I know I’m the only one that can make this decision, but I was wondering if anyone has been in a similar situation, or could offer any bits of advice to me…okay, and one last thing…that sums up all the really necessary information, so feel free to not read the end of this. But I would like to hear some input on this as well:

Last year, I met a girl. We dated for over a year, and I fell head over heels in love (as far as I know what love is). She has always been my friend before my girlfriend. I know this sounds corny and all, but in truth, I have never felt like I have connected with someone in the same way, and I feel like she can bring the best out of me. As James Taylor would say: I feel fine anytime she’s around me now (hah I couldn’t resist). Anyway, over the last few months, she’s found a new guy, they have started dating, and we’ve had our inevitable problems about it. But somehow we’re still going strong. Like she can still tell me everything about their relationship, and I’ll always listen, and it has just proven to me how close we really are, apart from a relationship. Anyway, I couldn’t imagine leaving her. Am I completely insane? I may be, but it would break my heart. I know that I can’t make a choice for someone else, but has anyone been in such a situation. I know this sounds like the stupid boyfriend complaint that has been disastrous for many before me, but I don’t know, she’s just my best friend. I couldn’t imagine waking up and not having the prospect of seeing her everyday. Okay, I’ll shut up…Any advice on my decision one way or the other??

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