Hiatus from work for the high school years

busdriver11
Mon, 18 Jun 2018 04:17:04 +0000

I don’t know. I sure haven’t done every possible thing and taken care of every possible need for my kids like the OP has. I feel like I did my best, but I was gone a lot with my job and did 21 years of opposite schedules with my husband so someone could always be home. And when I came home, I was often tired. I avoided many opportunities to help out at school because I didn’t care for dealing with kids other than my own, or their friends. I’m pretty sure I would have been a disappointing spouse for the OP (if I was a dude, that is). But things seemed to have worked out pretty well for my kids so far, in spite of my imperfections.

I believe that instead of wanting to have the perfect spouse and parent, sometimes you just have to work with what you got. Some people get closer to their kids as they get older, and have more common interests. I don’t think it’s good to focus on people’s weaknesses, but better to play on their strengths. Better to have some of Dad’s attention, than none of it at all. And a husband who will pay for and support your choices for the children, even when he doesn’t agree, is not that common.