Hiatus from work for the high school years

busdriver11
Mon, 18 Jun 2018 00:53:00 +0000

I believe from previous posts that the spouse does not support the path the OP chose with regard to one if the childten’s issues. He is saying that he supports her if she wants to change up her work situation to follow through on the path she chose. Subtle but important distinction within a marriage in my opinion

This is what I came up with, too. From prior posts, it does not seem to me like this is the selfish, uncaring husband that others are seeing. It sounds like he works hard and pays expensive bills so the kids can do activities, live where they need to for schools, and S1 can have the treatment the OP thinks he needs, even though he disagrees with it. He will pay for household help, support the OP to do (or not do) whatever work she chooses. He does help around the house and watches the kids.

It seems that he may not be the parent the OP wishes he would be, but she is a more dedicated parent than any other I have heard about. Maybe he is just a normal person and thinks she is going over the top for the kids. But that’s what she thinks is needed. So who is to say what’s right? I can’t see begrudging him job related travel and fitness training. Not everyone is capable of giving up every second of their life to be the perfect parent. Sometimes you need to take what you can get, and not expect someone to be what you wish they’d be. I agree there are two sides to every story.

When I read what the OP does for her kids (and I have an Aspie), I realize that I must have really sucked. But despite my complete suckinesss as a parent, he is doing great!