Hitting a Rough Patch - Advice Needed

deb922
Mon, 16 Sep 2013 10:26:07 +0000

Kelsmom, I can so relate to your post. Sometimes it seems that I should be doing more with my life, even though I have a great husband and family who are doing really well. And I’ve realized after feeling that I don’t quite measure up that others don’t perceive me the same way and that I do live a very blessed life.

My MIL said something to me this weekend and I can not get it out of my head. My kids are out of college and doing very well. They have jobs and are in great relationships with people I like. But I don’t get to see them very often, they live far away and are busy with jobs, SO’s and life. But my MIL made a derogatory comment how now I’m going to be a MIL and how my S’s GF will always put her family above mine. Now, I have tried to be a very good DIL and honestly I see her more than I see my own mother and my sibling as they live far away. In fact I see my MIL more than I see my children. And she went on and on about how she couldn’t go see her other grandchild when I haven’t been with my own children on their birthdays in a long time and she has missed most of my children’s birthday. So why is she telling me this. I think she wasn’t thinking.

But it has kept me up at night. I wake up and am so sad. I am having trouble getting back to sleep. I can’t bring it up with my H. He wants to pretend that everything is fine and his mother is perfect. And never, ever make waves. Not that it makes any difference. I should be so happy. My D is coming to visit. And I am thrilled.

Sorry, my little pity party of one today.