Hitting on and getting hit on by undergrads

pseudoghost
Sat, 24 Dec 2011 13:49:55 +0000

Apparently, phichick missed the entire point of avoiding TA-student relationships until after the semester is over. Even if there are no allegations of sexual harassment between you and him, someone else can complain, or allege that he treated you differently, and still put him into a very bad place. If anyone does complain, a natural question will be: did phichick receive better grades because they were dating at the time? Did their relationship influence his decisions at all? If so, he could still lose his funding (today or in the future), or worse yet be thrown out of graduate school for breaching the college’s no-fraternization policy.

If you want to date a TA, then wait until at least a few months AFTER the semester is over to even initiate contact. Otherwise, you place yourself both in a position for potential pain later on down the line.