Homesick Sophomore

anon94785555
Sat, 16 Jan 2016 19:39:55 +0000

Definitely use your college counseling center.
Remind yourself that going home is not an option.
As above, keep your grades up.

You have some issues that need resolving. Reaching out to us is the first step of many you will be taking. You know there is a problem, you are seeking ways to solve it. The counseling center will help you identify components and breaking it down into several parts should make it easier to work on. Do not try to go it alone or with your mom because your relationship with her is part of your situation. In fact, figuring out how to live without your mom in your life may be the key to enjoying most of the other things.

Good you are addressing this. I have a cousin who never left his mother- lived at home for college and grad work. Never had a “real” job (had SS benefits accrued since his father died when he was four). Never became an independent adult. Stifled. You need to avoid this for a better life in the decades to come.

Besides the counseling center here are some things to do (aside from keeping up on the academics). Make lists. List the reasons you think you want to return home. A list of your mother’s good points. What she does for you. Then- her bad points. Come up with different topics for lists. Things you can do away from home. Things you do/do not like about yourself, your mother, school, cities…

Once you have exhausted yourself with minutiae in those lists go over them. Look for common themes. Make a list of the ideal circumstances. Of how you want to be in ten years.

After too much time spent on this you should have many puzzle pieces. It may be hard but with the help of counselors you can put pieces together to form your future. Hint- it won’t be hiding at home with your mommy.