How do I adjust to having a roommate?

collegemom3717
Wed, 02 Nov 2022 15:45:10 +0000

neela1:

You just need to be able to tolerate each other.

This!

Often new students think that “everybody else” has made bffs in the 1st few weeks of school. It does happen, but more typically people find a few people fast (roommate/suitemates/dormmates/teammates) and hang out with them for the first few weeks.

But then, once you know your way around campus and what the rhythm of college is like, most people start getting to know more people- from classes, ECs, who hangs out at the same times & places they do, etc- and organically start to widen their circle of acquaintances. With more time and shared experiences (work and play), some of those people start to become friends.

GpPsych:

so I guess the same personalities

possibly- but probably not! You can share a lot of values but have really different personalities.

The key things with your new roommate/suitmates are:

1. be upfront about how you work (do you go to bed early/late? are you up early/late? what times do you think are early/late? do you like to study in your room? if so, do you need quiet? how much mess can you live with? is it different than your roommate(s) tolerance? If you share the same tastes in music, great- but agree on earphones/headphones.

2. If/when issues come up, be direct, honest and respectful.