How do you feel about getting older?

twoinanddone
Tue, 17 Dec 2024 03:20:31 +0000

ucbalumnus:

Can they afford assisted living or nursing homes?

Yes to both. 98 year old who wants to go everywhere was a doctor, owned a home, etc so could easily fund a few more years in a nursing home. The other one lives in a teeny tiny ranch house (I’m guessing 1000 square feet, a teeny tiny kitchen that only one person can be in at once, 3 bedrooms one bath…but it is on 3 city lots and would sell for about $2M, maybe $3M. She’s lived there since the 1940’s so it’s paid off. She’s 102! How many years do you think she’d need in the nursing home!

Honestly, my friend’s husband is run ragged by all the meals, the bookkeeping and bill paying, the calls to come over and change a light bulb or run to the store for a prescription because she only has 7 pills left. He’s 75, his sister who is a big PITA who lives in LA but is quick to criticize if she can’t get mother on the phone as any moment is older. When friend and husband go on vacation, it involves a Marshall plan to get the meals covered or prepare for a 2" snow ‘storm’ as the service only comes if there is 6". I’ve covered sometimes, but I’m sort of old now too. If friend or H get covid (and they have) then it’s scramble to get meals or other care covered and sometimes that’s up to 10 days.

The assisted living place is really nice! She had to go there when she broke her hip but didn’t want to live there. I think she’s afraid no one would visit.