How do you feel about getting older?

somemom
Wed, 25 Dec 2024 20:37:07 +0000

Invited people to dinner or dessert. Nobody ever reciprocated. Many have moved away.

Many years ago we moved away from the town where we raised our kids. We had been the house to come to for any excuse- Labor Day, July 4th, Memorial Day, Christmas, we always invited people over.

In my first years in our new town, I was weary and did not make that effort, but sometimes on an above summer holiday, I would call and chat with those old friends. All of them were home, none of them had people over, none of the went anywhere. They enjoyed coming to our place, year after year, but never really made the effort once it was not easy.

I also had an experience moving away from my parent and sibling. Mother & SIL both commented that with me gone, they would have more time together, both looked forward to it. Neither one ever made any real effort to make it happen, like they did not understand and appreciate the amount of effort and energy that goes into organizing social stuff and they, seriously, commented, separately, decades later how disappointed they each were that they never became closer (magically, I guess.)

So it may be that the people you are wishing would make an effort just do not know what to do