How do you feel about this?

quomodo
Mon, 20 Dec 2010 23:34:13 +0000

Disregarding the whole conformist/non-conformist crap for a moment, I’d just like to tell the OP that I empathize with you.

I had a similar situation happen–albeit in 5th grade, so this seems a bit juvenile, but anyway–there was a girl no one much liked, and I tried to be really nice to her and have her sit with my friends and me at lunch and, honestly, I got her where she was. Which sounds totally conceited and d o u c h e y but is actually quite true. Then, she forms this exclusive little group–with one of my BEST friends, and these two other boys. For like 6 months, they all sat together at lunch, hung out at recess, whispered about stuff–when I tried to get my BEST friend to include me, she said they were talking about secret group stuff and I should wait while they whispered and giggled. It felt really dang awful, and I was jealous and felt excluded and upset. So I totally get where you’re coming from.

Honestly I think it shouldn’t be a huge deal. Maybe YOU organize an ice skating trip next time. If it’s really bugging you, just ask one of your friends or Matt why you weren’t invited. It might be awkward, but you can make them understand that you wanted to go along, and there might be a simple explanation for this that would make you feel better.

Good luck, relax, and feel better soon!
:)