How is Everyone Holding Up?

momoffive
Sun, 19 Aug 2007 11:32:01 +0000

Doing much better this year so far. I still have 4 at home, so no empty nest for a while, thanks to goodness. Last year ds#1 went from rural home in midwest to Big City University on east coast. I mailed 3 boxes in advance and we both flew out with the full allotment of bags. This year he’s going by himself and I am mailing only one box. Everything else will either come out of storage or “I’ll buy it myself when I’m out there”

Last year I was a frequent reader of the “We miss him, maybe he doesn’t miss us” thread. My S doesn’t like talking on the phone, rarely respond to emails and rarely chats. He simply doesn’t “get it” that just saying “everything is fine” is not enough. He’s a classic “Men are from Mars” type. I’ve been coaching him…“ok, this year I want you to turn around and wave at me before you disappear down the terminal after clearing airport security” type stuff LOL and I think we are kinda sorta on the same page about communication. Sometimes you have to just spell it out. It only takes 5 or 10 minutes of phone conversation a week beyond “It’s fine” to make this mom happy. (not that I wouldn’t take more, but I’m being realistic about the communicator I’m dealing with) When he came home this summer he was really pleasant and nice to be around and we had a great summer. I will miss him, but it’s time for him to get on with his life. It was really hard his freshman year because I didn’t have a real feel on how things were going for him. Turns out they were fine and he handled it all on his own. I think I will be worrying less this year. :-)

momoffive