How long do you give it? ...

2collegewego
Wed, 01 Oct 2008 17:30:22 +0000

Thank you so much for all your help! She got permission to drop one lab class and is still full-time. I had someone check in on her and they said what was making it worse is that a group of students was being mean to her. Those students found out that my daughter was thinking of leaving and they all got together and apologized to her. So things are better. She’s still lonely because she hasn’t joined activities (she promised me she would try one more club) but is feeling less overwhelmed and is not being picked on. I don’t think there’s anything much that can be done about the racial aspects of dating (which means that the black young women are overlooked for dating and many white young women quickly pair up-- which can take up any free time to spend with other females) but I’m still encouraging her to find some clubs. (There is a cultural club of AA students but daughter doesn’t want to join because it bothers her that AA students would have to join together to have friends. I’m trying to get her to think about it differently but she’s grown up in a very diverse community.) So she’s hanging in there.