How long to know references?

chrisw
Wed, 20 Nov 2013 11:31:58 +0000

Really, it depends on what kind of reference.

If it’s a professional reference for a job, you just need to use someone who has seen you in action and who knows what you have done at a very high level (i.e. did this person work at this company at this time?). If it’s a personal reference, use someone who knows things about you that most people don’t - obviously they won’t say those things, but you would want someone who knows you well and can speak to your true character.

Don’t forget that references are not recommendations. As someone’s reference, you are only asked to respond to questions when people seek you out; a recommendation requires you to anticipate questions and proactively talk about a person.