How much info do you share with extended family?

musicprnt
Mon, 20 Jul 2015 19:39:36 +0000

My take is I wouldn’t share, for a lot of reasons.First of all, it can backfire if you are doing this to ‘brag’, for one reason others are going to see it as such and then find ways to retaliate, like “oh, how nice your kid is applying to X, my kids had that as their safety school” or it will come back in other ways. Secondly, you don’t need to justify homeschooling, you don’t need to make up for the kid who didn’t go to college, and if you do you are kind of playing everyone else’s game. It reminded me when I was a teenager, and having idiot relatives ask me what my GPA was, when it was none of their business, I wasn’t going to feed into their stupid games (two of my cousins were big sports stars in high school and the parents used to brag about them, one of them ended up doing decently as a lawyer after a pretty rough high school and college career, the other one ended up a loss to drugs). I would simply say that you are proud of the kid, he is applying to a number of good schools, and when he figures out where he wants to go, you’ll let them know. By doing that you cut off the “oh, wasn’t good enough to get into X, and ended up settling for Y”, all you are telling them is “S is going to go to school X, he choose that among the many he applied to”.