How to deal with competitive friends

aunt_bea
Fri, 02 Oct 2020 22:38:08 +0000

Both of my daughters had to deal with this.

I told them that it was none of anyone’s business where they were going to apply.

We had a budget and told all three of our kids: If your “friends” have a problem with where you’re applying, tell them, “OK, I’ll apply to those schools deemed acceptable to you, but my parents will expect full payment of tuition from you and your parents when I get in”

You should be more than proud of yourself for standing your ground.

As for HYPSM schools, the friends can apply to wherever they want; it doesn’t mean that they will get in. More often than not, they wont get in. If by some chance they were to get in, it doesn’t mean that they can afford to go. Let them go on and on about how they are applying to those schools. It doesn’t matter.

You can avoid them and just tell them: “you do you”.

You don’t need to justify your choices to anyone. You can always ask them, "Why are my choices of schools so important to you??

Apply, get in and go to your schools. You will be fine wherever you go.