How to deal with my current job?

momofthreeboys
Tue, 05 Oct 2010 07:19:38 +0000

I also think the advice about times scheduled etc. is important. I know over the decades the people that consistently schedule their doctor’s appointments in the middle of the morning and middle of the afternoon instead of first thing in the morning, over lunch hour or end of the day make other employees roll their eyeballs. Some of it might be your manager just trying to get you to be more thoughtful about how you schedule your time.

As far as the school that is a choice. Unfortunately you can’t go to every sports match, or afterschool or during school activity. It’s just a trade-off. I know that our district as gotten much more thoughtful about not having mommy and me stuff during the day with the lower elementary schools, it’s just not practical with the vast majority of moms in the workforce today. It’s not fair to the kids and it’s not fair to the parents. If your school isn’t “aware” then you can help in that regard if you feel like advocating for working moms…I know I did my share of “advocating” for the working mom LOL to stop some of these mid-day activities. Parent-teacher conferences are generally understood and accepted although almost every elementary school has evening appointments these days. The rest you just need to be thoughtful and pick one or two things that are the most meaningful to you and your kids.

Some of it is that you are relatively “new.” There are little priviledges that long-term employees get. They have “proven” themselves over time and tend to know the ebb and flow of the department. However, you’ve been there long enough to know if you are going to “fit” or not with this group so if you feel that it’s never going to jibe, then yes, you can look around for a group that they dynamics seem to match yours closer.