How to handle coach/recruiting situation as a parent

monofrunner
Thu, 21 Nov 2013 23:34:36 +0000

Thanks for the replies and great advice. JHS, I do agree completely that there is far more to the equation (how child feels and fits in is worth a lot), but for the purposes of the post, it was about how to negotiate w/ the coach b/c the 3 schools are different by objective measures. The gray area complicates things. If child did not like the school so much, it would not matter so much that we do not know cost to us for child to attend this one school. We are paying close attention precisely b/c she liked it alot – but it is tough b/c the online calculator for this one school came in much higher than at other schools. To complicate things, child loved ALL three schools and says she’d be happy at any of them. She could take the pressure off by applying on her own – all 3 admissions depts gave thumbs up on admission before the Official Visit invitations were extended. But I think that no matter how strong an applicant’s scores/class rank/extracurriculars are, there are tons of great kids who do not get accepted at elites b/c there just are not enough spots–so we do NOT want to alienate a coach by doing/saying the wrong thing. Thanks again.