How to help a grieving friend?

jmmom
Sat, 05 Aug 2006 20:46:38 +0000

If you knew her mother, it is wonderful to share a note with a happy/funny/poignant memory of her.

Being there for her to talk, when she wants, is good. But, instead of waiting for her to contact you, I’d contact her a little more often than usual. It can be by phone or online. It doesn’t have to be focused on “how are you doing” or her mother’s death, just being in touch and letting her talk about whatever she wants. Often, people fairly quickly move out of touch with a grieving person because of the awkwardness of not knowing what to say. Keeping in touch can be a blessing.

You are so thoughtful to ask.