How to kill shyness and quietness?

Northstarmom
Sun, 25 Jun 2006 19:02:22 +0000

Sites with lots of helpful info about overcoming shyness. Was created by one of the world’s experts on overcoming this problem.
http://www.shyness.com/

Some tips from another page with good info:

“Conversation Topics-never leave home without them. Good conversationalists are rarely at a loss for words because: 1) they do so many things and go so many places that they have lots to talk about or 2) they prepare. Good conversationalists never leave home without something to say to the people they think they’ll be seeing that day. If they’re going to a party, they brush up on topics of interest to the people they know will be attending…”


Let people know you’re shy. … The obvious way to be shy is to blush, tremble, twitch or otherwise physically manifest your shyness. The not so obvious way is to avoid eye contact with people, not have much to say or decline offers from others you’d like to accept, but that are too far outside of your comfort zone for you to feel comfortable attending.


Not so obvious shy people are often mistaken as arrogant or aloof—even by fellow shy people–when nothing could be farther from the truth. We’re terrified on the inside. It’s just that we don’t show it on the outside…

Most people are relieved to hear that you’re shy. You see, odds are that unless they have a reason to know better, most people will interpret your not so obvious shyness as a sign of arrogance or being stuck up, or simply as a sign that you don’t like them. …


Reward effort not outcome! Memorize this one, because it’s absolutely critical for conquering your shyness—or anything else you want to master, for that matter. The only thing we can control in our life is our self—and even that can be… If we smile and they smile back, well good. But if we smile and they don’t smile too, we see it as a failure. WRONG!!! You won’t get very far that way. … http://www.shakeyourshyness.com/Tips.HTM